it’s not just a touch.
Something I’ve noticed lately is the internet, and people in general, becoming more “sexualized” and more “in touch with their sexuality”. But it doesn’t feel that way. I mean, perhaps it’s just me but it not only feels performative, but also misses the point of sex.
While yes, sex is pleasure. It’ll always be that, but I feel like people miss the actual trust and intimacy that goes into sex. I think that you can acknowledge the kinkier side of sex; while also knowing that having sex with someone, is an act of true love and trust. Have you considered how vulnerable you are during it? I mean, thinking about it giving your body to someone that you hold dear and them doing the same is pretty tender.
What I see now, especially in adult spaces, are people focusing on the pleasure side of sex only. I mean, maybe it’s because I am on the asexual and aromantic spectrums, but I feel like it’s more to intercourse than that. Obviously, I’m not bashing anyone who enjoys sex! My problem is reducing and dumbing it down to simply touching yourself (or,, others.) when it is more than a touch. For me it’s more than just a touch… it’s something special. It’s something important to mankind——it’s history even.
I don’t know how much of a voice i have on this topic… considering I am a virgin, nor do I really have a desire to. Would I mind trying it? sure. I personally don’t care. Perhaps I am sexually apathetic, but that’s another topic for another post, another day. Even so, the public’s general perception of intercourse concerns me.
There are countless videos, poems, blog accounts, articles, and so much more media based on love and romance. Is sex not apart of that? While I don’t doubt that there is content centering around the tenderness and depth of sex, I feel like it isn’t enough of it. Usually I see sex being displayed as a tool, something empowering, something to hold over someone. While yes; it can be used like this, along with love, this is how I usually (but not always!), see it being portrayed.
I feel like because of these portrayals, it sort of demonizes it. And I’m not even going to touch on religion, specifically Christianity, because I think we all have a good understanding of how religion has made us demonize sex even more. I think that is why the internet is going through a “sex revolution”, for the most part. People want to break free from purity culture——but yet they don’t get the full picture of the beauty of intercourse? At least to me.
I think sex can be empowering, while also beautiful and poetic.
In shows and movies, the naked body is often used to symbolize vulnerability and “true self”. I guess that makes sex more special. Is showing your true self to someone not special? Someone you think might cherish your true identity and form? To take you… for you?
I also think we take sex for granted, I mean, that rather sounds stupid considering it isn’t a resource like water or oil. But it is something the majority of mankind craves. Sex feels common. I think that the media has done a good job at making it seem like it’s just an action. Devaluing it. Like it’s just a grain in a sea of sand, it has no meaning other than what you’ve been given. Which isn’t much.
I suppose I am rambling at this point… but I guess I will end this off by saying:
Sex, to me at least, is beautiful. It’s an act of love, passion, trust, vulnerableness, taking someone for who they really and truthfully are. Not only that, it’s also disgusting. It’s gross, nasty, disturbing at times. Fusing bodily fluids together while flopping around hot and sweaty, holding your partner close to you while you both make odd noises, in strange positions. But if it wasn’t then is it really sex? It isn’t conventionally pretty, and that’s what makes it so beautiful.
Whatever. Who cares, do what you want.
