No True Victims
There is no such thing as a True Victim! It seems you all are fake fake fake! According to Twitter victims do not fawn! Victims do not forgive their abusers! Victims do not go back with their abusers! Victims cannot be old, victims cannot be young, victims cannot be young girls, victims especially cannot be young boys. You are all Potential Victims! Never the Perfect and Pure Victim that needs saving, Someone I can come in and help, Someone who is considered “Damaged Goods” that I can fix. If I cannot fix you what’s the point? What is the point of a Princess you can’t Save?
I See a lot of Victim blaming online. It’s interesting to see especially by people who say they support victims. It’s really interesting to see people harass victims of abuse because they are not the Perfect Image that they imagine them to be. I’m not saying this hypothetically I’ve actually seen people do this, it’s wild! I’ve even seen people harass someone who… made a victim and perpetrator? OCs?
I feel like a lot of people don’t understand how abuse—any form of it—can ruin someone mentally. There is no such thing as a perfect victim, and there will never be one. It’s ridiculous to say or assume such a thing since people are deeply complex. No one will have the same reaction, no one will behave the exact way, and no one will recover the same either. I feel like People who consider themselves advocates for victims or at the very least support them should also learn about the different trauma responses a person can experience so that maybe they don’t attack people who fawn over their abusers?
I am obviously not saying Support their Fawning, but I think it would help people more if they just understood. Abuse no matter how long you experienced it changes the way you think and see things, so wouldn’t it make sense for some victims to have an attachment to their abusers? Especially if their Abuser someone like a Parent or anyone Familial. You feel like you have to forgive; you have to forget what was Done, you have to accept it, because they’re your family. Hell i’d apply this Logic to Anyone who you’re extremely close with who has wronged and hurt you. It’s hard to not be attached since you feel like you have to love them. Because they aren’t called your loved ones for nothing?
I feel like some of this Applies to Writing Victims of Abuse. Obviously do research on any topic you’re trying to Use in your Stories, but I think that there isn’t a Completely wrong way to write a victim. Ignoring any stereotypes (assuming you are not doing that), Like I Mentioned Prior everyone’s reaction is different, everyone’s behavior varies. Some People escape while others are forced to Stay with their Abuser. Both are realistic and relatable. I feel like it shouldn’t be a bad thing to say that some people cannot leave their horrible environments, it’s a reality for many. Terrible, but it’s real. we shouldn’t want to make it seem like Anything else.
Whatever. My point is let’s not put victims on an untouchable pedestal, to the point where If One does something “Wrong” or copes with their trauma “Incorrectly”, they’re ripped off of it and Discarded by the Masses. They are human and do human things. Some people do not have happy ends, others do. Everything and Everyone is complex. Do you get it? I hope so.